I read a pretty interesting article the other day talking about how 1 in 6 Americans sought therapy for the first time in 2020.  This isn’t much of a surprise, especially when I think back to everything that went on in the year that seemed to never end.  How is there is still a stigma attached to people who are in therapy or seeking therapy for the first time?  One main reason is that some people don’t think their problems are “big enough for professional help.”  

As a recent homeowner, I get it.  I want to be able to fix it all with confidence, even if I have never fixed a broken garage door before or don’t know the first thing about ice makers.  

I tend to throw myself into watching videos and reading tons of forums- without any luck.   There are things that we just can’t seem to “figure out” and that’s when it’s time to call in a professional.  Someone who has the experience and can help get things back up and running.  I’m not comparing therapy to a broken garage door, but I am trying to get you to see therapy in a different light.  Therapy isn’t a “quick fix” and maybe the unrealistic expectation of it is part of the reason we’re set up to be let down.  We can’t expect years of “stuff” to be figured out in a short amount of time, we need to be more patient with ourselves and the process.  We all need help and asking for it is not something that we should be ashamed of.   

When it comes to therapy, especially if it’s your first time, there may be tons of things you are wondering.  What things do I talk about?  What if I don’t have anything to say?  How do I even begin talking about (insert reason for therapy here)?  Nervousness is expected, so just roll with it.  Usually, the first session (and some after that) are all about you and the therapist getting to know each other and building a connection.  It may seem like you’re answering a million questions or caught off guard because for once in your life, someone is curious about you and is genuinely listening.  You may also surprise yourself at the amount you’re sharing with someone who you just met and feel really vulnerable and uncomfortable.  Whether the vibe of the session is really deep and personal, or that you just want to talk to someone other than those living in your home (pets included), each session is yours. 

The focus is on you and what you want to bring to the room, so try and remain mindful of this and the purpose and expectations.