If you’ve found this blog post, you’re probably looking for a therapist, seeking some information regarding therapy, or are preparing for a consultation with a potential therapist.  Whatever the reason, you’re here and so am I.  The fact that you’re seeking info on how to help yourself or an aspect of your life is commendable, realize that.  With that said, consultations are offered to see if a therapist is the “right fit” for you and your needs, and to answer some questions to help with your decision.  What does “right” fit mean?  Well, it can be based on many different factors, but overall it’s the feeling that you get during and after the consult.  Do you feel heard and understood by the therapist?  Is this someone who you can see yourself opening up to and sharing aspects of your life with?  Do they have experience working with the reason you’re seeking therapy?  

There are also questions about insurance, cancellation policies, and therapy styles.  Not all therapists will “fit” for you, and that’s ok, but be honest with yourself throughout the process.  Are you not finding a “fit” because you’re afraid of judgment?  Are you second guessing this whole therapy thing?  Are you completely new to therapy and don’t want to make a wrong decision?  Ease your mind and remember that therapists are in the world to help, not judge.  Sure, there are therapists out there who aren’t the most understanding,  but use consults as a way to weed those out.  Use this time to be curious about the therapist and see if it feels like a good match.  Preparing some questions can be helpful, especially if talking on the phone isn’t really your thing.  

We all start somewhere and the initial feeling of nervousness is totally understandable, but taking the first step can lead to amazing things.  Prioritize your mental health and refuse to see therapy as a “last resort” or thing that you feel embarrassed to say to people.  Seeking understanding of yourself and the world around you is brave, embrace it and make the call.